This channel is for Fearful Avoidants who are ready to heal, and feel more freedom, calm, love, peace in your head, body and life. It is absolutely possible.
After spending 14 years healing the fearful avoidant attachment style, I am beyond passionate and dedicated to get you to where I am now: living a life true to myself, waking up feeling rested and peaceful. Deeply in love with my husband, and looking forward to the future. This is what life is supposed to be like, and it is my honor to help you get there.
In the past 7 years I have guided over 3000 Fearful Avoidants through both my Dutch programs (I am from the Netherlands), and English (Healed & Happy) to a secure attachment and happy relationship. I love seeing how lives can change within three months, and how NORMAL it can feel to have a secure attachment. I wish you so much joy, pleasure, and love.
📩 Email: hello@healingthefearfulavoidant.com
Paulien Timmer - Healing the fearful avoidant
Hi lovelies ❤️
I wanted to share a small update with you.
For the past few years, I've been posting a new video every Thursday. It has been one of the greatest joys of my life to build this channel with you and to be part of your healing journeys.
At the same time, these past few years have also been incredibly full, intense, and at times quite turbulent. Recently I've been feeling more and more strongly that I need to take a step back for a little while, spend more time with my family, and create some space to reconnect with myself and my own energy.
Because of that, I’ll be posting new videos less frequently for the coming months. Instead of every Thursday, there will be one new video on the first Thursday of each month.
This doesn't mean I'm going anywhere. My self-paced program, Healed & Happy, will remain fully available, and me and my team are choosing to prioritize supporting the healing journeys happening within the program during this period.
The truth is that I love this work so much that sometimes I forget to take enough time for myself. And lately I've been feeling that it is time to listen to that little voice asking for a real vacation.
My intention is to return after a few months feeling re-energized, inspired, and able to create even more focused and supportive content for you.
Thank you for being here. Thank you for your trust, your openness, your comments, your stories, and for allowing me to be part of your journey.
I am so happy you are here, and I love you all very much. I can't wait to come back refreshed and continue this work together.
Lots of love,
Paulien
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Paulien Timmer - Healing the fearful avoidant
Hi! Tomorrow, we have something special coming..
Keep an eye on this channel, around 4pm Amsterdam Time!
5 months ago | [YT] | 17
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Paulien Timmer - Healing the fearful avoidant
I want to do something for you. I want to make a super affordable, super valuable deep dive LIVE workshop around a specific topic. We will actually get to work and heal something, so you get the most value out of it.
I have several ideas for the workshop, but I definitely also want to hear what you would want to heal.
First idea:
Rewiring 1 Deep Nervous System Pattern of the Fearful Avoidant
(There are 5 deep nervous system patterns, but we will work on healing 1 of them during the workshop, to make sure you get the most deep transformation out of it)
Second idea:
How to Heal the 'I'm not (doing) enough' Trigger in 21 days
(During the workshop we will work on this specific trigger, and I will explain what to do for the rest of the 21 days)
Third idea:
Healing (holiday) overwhelm
With the holidays coming up, and all the things that are happening around family and everything having to be great, it makes sense that you feel overwhelmed.
Fourth idea:
Anything that you are really struggling with right now, that you would want to work on!
7 months ago | [YT] | 22
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Paulien Timmer - Healing the fearful avoidant
Welcome to the new Healing the Fearful Avoidant community! This is a new Youtube feature, so I'm not really sure what is possible here or how it works, but ler's figure that out together :)
I think this is a good place to post questions you have about healing the fearful avoidant attachment style and suggest new video topics. I can't guarantee we will be able to answer every question or post, but I will most definitely read every single one!
It helps me know what to make video's about and how to help you more.
So again, welcome :)
Let me know what you think!
7 months ago | [YT] | 25
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Paulien Timmer - Healing the fearful avoidant
If you could ask my husband ONE question, what would it be?
He has been with me, through this whole journey. We met when I was 20 and he was 25, and for the first 6 years I went through the crash state of the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style. During the almost 17 years we've been together, I was healing for about 10. In the past 6 or 7 years we have had a stable, happy relationship and I've been very dominantly securely attached. So he has seen it all.
10 months ago | [YT] | 39
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Paulien Timmer - Healing the fearful avoidant
My dear, dear community: I am looking for 10 people who want to help me with a test, TODAY! (Like, within 5 hours of me posting this).
You will get a HUGE thank you gift in return (as well as my everlasting gratitude). It's an online test, all you have to do is test if something works or not and then let me know what doesn't work in an email you send me. That's it. It should cost you 10 minutes tops.
I would seriously be so grateful.
If you're game, email me at hello@healingthefearfulavoidant.com with the subject 'I want to test!' and I will explain more.
EDIT: Thank you sooo much for the enormous wave of help. I really didn't expect that and appreciate it so much. Thank you for being here, always!
Also: I'm so sorry if you didn't get a prompt reply. I decided to do this in a week where my amazing team member Robin is on holiday, and she usually does the answering of emails. That's why there was an autoreply, and that's why it maybe took so long to respond! So very sorry for the bad timing on my part and again: so grateful for all the help!
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Paulien Timmer - Healing the fearful avoidant
What do you type into Google when you want to know more about the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style? I want to hear your literal questions and thoughts, because I'm going to be filming a lot of video's next week! I already have 150 topics (like, actually 150!), but I just want to make sure I'm really getting to the topics you want to hear about.
1 year ago | [YT] | 23
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Paulien Timmer - Healing the fearful avoidant
Oh my gosh I have something for you..
I made a new free 3 day training 'The Basics of Healing the Fearful Avoidant' where you get all the things you need to know to make sure you
1. Heal faster
2. Heal thoroughly (so you don't have to heal EVERYTHING, but a few things thoroughly that make the rest fall away)
3. Heal strategically (so you heal the right things)
Get it here: www.healingfa.com
Did you download it?
1 year ago | [YT] | 25
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Paulien Timmer - Healing the fearful avoidant
Which of these 4 core wounds (there's more, but I'm only allowed to post 4!) of the Fearful Avoidant do you struggle with the most?
1 year ago | [YT] | 8
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Paulien Timmer - Healing the fearful avoidant
New video, new studio! How do you like the new background? I've had so much fun decorating it. Bigger studio than before, and I am just so happy I can go there, turn on the ligths and make alll the video's for you!
1 year ago | [YT] | 10
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