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i am Paul Cram

Welcome to my corner of YouTube—where queer reflections, books, and stories come together with humor and heart. I’m Paul Cram—actor, book lover, and unapologetic scent nerd.
Here you’ll find: 
📖 Book Talks – Nonfiction and true stories that spark real conversation. 
🍬 Soul Snacks – Bite-sized reflections on queer life, creativity, and finding joy in the mess.
 🛏️ Storytime – Narrative escapes, from cozy tales to spooky whispers, often with an ASMR edge. 
🌀 Timeline Cleansers – Short, playful breaks to make you smile.
Think of this channel as a queer storytelling lounge—part book club, part confessional, part fireside ghost story. Whether I’m unpacking a provocative book, sharing life lessons, or telling an odd little tale, my goal is to keep you company and spark ideas that matter.
If you’re into queer perspectives, thought-provoking books, and stories that blend humor with heart (sometimes with a spooky edge), hit subscribe and settle in.

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i am Paul Cram

Holidays can stir up old family wounds.
Some need tending, not reopening—soft bandages, time, care.
To anyone healing from what you didn’t deserve: you’re allowed to heal and protect yourself from being hurt again.

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🎄📚This month we read "Christmas: A Candid History" by Bruce David Forbes and learned a few delightful curveballs:

✨ Christians didn’t celebrate Christmas for three centuries

✨ Puritans once made Christmas illegal (imagine banning tinsel)

✨ St. Nicholas shows up as… an elf?!

Overall take: a thoughtful, level-headed look at Christmas history from a Christian author who isn’t afraid to say, “Let’s all calm down.” No “war on Christmas” here—just a reminder that December has always been about winter, community, and a little joy… and maybe Christians can claim the 12 days after if they want to get specific. 😉

A bit dry in spots, but sprinkled with genuinely fascinating (and occasionally what-did-the-church-do-with-the-bones?!) moments.

Festive? Yes. Educational? Absolutely.

Overthinking Christmas just enough? Also yes. 🎁😄

#MenWhoRead #BookClubVibes #ChristmasHistory #ReadCuriously #WinterReads

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Where’s the dating app for middle-aged gay librarians? Asking for a friend… and by “friend,” I mean me, holding a library card and questionable intentions. 😇📘💋 I am actively looking for a middle-aged gay librarian who can whisper “quiet, please” in all the right ways. 😌📚❤️‍🔥

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Came home after the End-of-Kickball-Season party. Good laughs, a little flirting, maybe one too many drinks — and that familiar quiet hit when I walked through the door.
Sometimes in these settings, I catch myself wishing someone would just “pick me already.” Not desperate… more like, “hey, notice me, please?!” 👋
Not just the talkative, ridiculous version of me that cannot stop laughing — the whole me: quiet, serious, weird, intense, overly intense about books, perfume, and bike lanes. 😂
But it’s dawning on me: that warmth of being someone’s special someone… it’s already here. In my chest, in my core, humming like a steady glow.
So tonight, I’m holding that. The calm, the safety, the soft exhale that says:
I belong.
I matter.
I’m already chosen.
Still wouldn’t mind someone cute noticing though. 😉
Maybe someday. Until then, I've got this. (And I do need to get a cat.)
#latenightthoughts #queerjoy #worthylove

2 months ago | [YT] | 1

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As the holidays creep closer, I’ve been thinking about family and the literal / proverbial table we gather together at 🍽️

For years, my seat at the family table was conditional. I was tolerated as long as I never spoke about being gay 🌈, never mentioned boyfriends 💔 I was meant to be grateful for crumbs — not celebrated.

I deserve more than being tolerated, I deserve to be celebrated.

Chosen family has shown me what real love looks like 💛 How it nourishes, how it exists all year round, with a seat at the table every day, no strings attached 🤗
Because of that love, I’m learning I am worthy. Worthy of more. Worthy of dignity in my life, in my relationships, all of it.

These past few years, I’ve been sitting at a new table 🪑 Built from chosen family, unabashed love 💖, and people who don’t flinch at the word gay 🌈

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Had one of those great nights with friends—laughing until it hurt, talking about everything and nothing, even dancing a bit at a club. Someone told me “I enjoy how much you laugh.”
Now I’m home, feeling both grateful and a little melancholy. Friends are wonderful, but sometimes you wish you had that one person whose hand you could hold through the music, whose presence makes the quiet even more cozy.
Maybe someday. Maybe with a cat. Or maybe both. 🖤